2020 Goal Setting tip that works!

stack of 3 note books

Does the term 2020 goal setting seem like an oxymoron? Let’s face it 2020 has been a crazy year. Normal goal setting is difficult enough, but, 2020 goal setting is plain ridiculous!

Do you have trouble achieving your goals? Do set them and forget them?
Goal setting is easy. It is achieving your goal that is hard.

stack of 3 note books I use for 2020 goal setting
2020 Goal setting Notebooks

Well here is the biggest tip I can give that will help you achieve your goals and finish strong for 2020.

So what is my big secret tip?
Reflection.

It can be fun to look back on your life reflect on where you were at certain times. 

I visiting my parents recently and my mother was going through a bunch of photos and she found a photo of me that she really likes. 

Mom also found some old birthday cards and Christmas cards of mine from back in the day.

Needless to say, this inspired me to look back at my blog and listen to myself.

That sounds arrogant to some of you. You’re probably thinking, who wants to take advice from their past self? Well, the fact is, I do! 

Take a look at this post from 2016 on gratitude being a key to goal setting and achieving.

It’s an important process to track your progress.

I have found that the best way to do that is to look back at where I was at a specific time and compare that to where I am now.  It really is no different looking back at old photos, Christmas cards, or birthday cards. 

Think about it, did you have a diary growing up?  What about an old Journal or Sketchbook if you were an artist?

I am lucky to have my blog and my YouTube channel.

When I look back it gives me chance to see what I wanted to do in the future. I also get to see if I did in fact accomplish any or all of those goals.

I can actually look back at a specific date and time to what I was thinking about as well as what I was going after.  It is powerful! 

Every so often I look at a video or a post and think, “Oh man, things have changed. Other times, I say to myself “Hey! I never accomplished that goal, what happened there?

As you can see this process becomes very reflective and reflection is the best way to achieve a goal.

Let’s be realistic you can Google “goal setting” and millions of search results will come up. Many people have different opinions on goal setting.  Goal-setting isn’t the problem.

Picking a goal, writing it down, giving it a deadline was easy, If fact, it is still very easy. 

The hard part is sticking with that goal and ultimately achieving it.

Over the next little while I’m going to write more on goal setting and goal achieving.

Goal Achieving – by my definition is goal setting in a way that helps you stay focused and passionate about daily until it’s achieved. 

4 years later – a look back at High blood pressure (Hypertension)

Hypertension chart

Today is a public service announcement. I’ve kept this image on my fridge for 4 years. October 26th, 2016 I have a 24-hour cuff put on me to test my blood pressure. as you can see it isn’t exactly much to write home about or is it?

A black and white picture of my BP with the averages listed
A Hypertension – Blood Pressure

Here’s the story.

At that time I was 34 years old I haven’t been to the doctor in 4 years. I was working full-time, practicing Aikido, playing video games, and I was exercising on a regular basis. I mean why did I need to go to a doctor? Hahaha!!!

At that time diet mostly consisted of stuff I could prepare quickly. Meals, that didn’t take much preparation or no preparation was my ideal choice.  I figured hey, it’s not that bad. Wow, I was wrong! So, with the not-so-gentle encouragement from a friend of mine, I booked an appointment. My blood pressure was 165 over 110 in the doctor’s office that day. For those of you that don’t know 120 over 80 is the ideal blood pressure rating you want.

Since my doctor is awesome and understood that white coat syndrome is a thing so he requested that I wear a blood pressure cuff for 24 hours and see what the results would be over the course of a day. The machine will take my blood pressure every half an hour while I was awake and every hour while I was sleeping. 

Here comes the scary part.

After the results came back but my blood pressure was alarmingly high. Here is a closer look.

This is colour picture of my 24 hour BP test
Blood Pressure screenshot

As you can see by the picture 2 little separate green parts of the picture were the only time that my blood pressure was at a normal rate that was just as I fell asleep and just as I was waking up the rest of the time the chart looks like red mountains.

My doctor has been practicing for 15 years and that was the highest 24-hour blood pressure test he had ever seen. To be clear this is not the type of record that I wanted to set. Nobody wants to scare their doctor and therefore scare themselves in the process.

What did I do after I found out about my high blood pressure?

The first thing I did was call my parents and cry. That’s 34 years old in the parking lot of the doctor’s office, crying and questioning my mortality. The doctor put me on a blood pressure pill and claimed that I would have to go on one possibly or two more pills, for a total of 3.

I started to think if this continues on how much longer am I going to live? Is this the beginning of the end?

I am the guy who peaked in his late twenties and everything was downhill from there?

After the crying was over, I got to work.

I’m a solutions-based individual I started doing research and it turns out sodium and salt are both huge contributing factors to high blood pressure.

At the time I lived in work near Chinatown and so I continuously ate out for convenience. Now I have nothing against delicious Chinese food, Japanese food, and any other takeout that you can get your hands on every once in a while. 

However, I was eating something packed with soy sauce 6 to 7 days a week, for lunch or dinner. On top of that most mornings, you could find me headed to a Tim Hortons drive-thru or Starbucks for a salty breakfast sandwich. I blamed my Cerebral Palsy and wheelchair because it was easy to just grab and go.

Over the next month, I cut out almost all salts, no more eating out and I consumed mostly salads and wraps.

Here is a previous post I did about taking action.

My next doctor’s visit was good news! My blood pressure had dropped into an acceptable range. I believe it was in the 130s over 90. I told my doctor what I was doing and he encouraged me to stay on the path that I was on.

In the last, four years of continued diligence with diet and exercise. 

I’ve been able to keep my blood pressure in check, with a  single pill Instead of three.  I have also dropped my weight and without all that salt and sodium I am not thirsty all the time or tired.

You may ask why am I telling you all this?

The simple answer is because this led me down a path of healthier eating habits and regular doctor visits.  good habits snowball into positive results.

In May of 2019, I got a CPAP machine to help me with sleep apnea

I’ll have another article about sleep apnea at some point down the road.

World Cerebral Palsy Day! (Oct 6th)

Steve-38yearold-Cerebral-Palsy

I am 38 years old with Cerebral Palsy since birth and was born three months premature. there were two contributing factors that resulted in me having CP. 1. A lack of oxygen due to underdeveloped lungs, I spent nine weeks in an incubator because I stopped breathing multiple times. The second factor was trauma to the head caused by being pulled out with forceps.

Happy World Cerebral Palsy Day! (Oct 6th)

Taken from BC Cerebral Palsy Website.
World Cerebral Palsy Day is a global movement of people with Cerebral Palsy and their families, and the organizations that support them, in more than 60 countries. The day is an opportunity to celebrate, raise awareness, and take action to ensure that people with CP have the same rights, access, and opportunity as anyone else in their communities.

According to the CDC website.

Cerebral palsy (CP) is a group of disorders that affect a person’s ability to move and maintain balance and posture. CP is the most common motor disability in childhood. Cerebral means having to do with the brain. Palsy means weakness or problems with using the muscles. CP is caused by abnormal brain development or damage to the developing brain that affects a person’s ability to control his or her muscles.

So what does this mean?

The short answer is: Having Cerebral Palsy sucks!
Understandably that’s not the point of world Cerebral Palsy day. The day exists to raise awareness and raise money for things that help research and whatnot. As well as a fight for equal rights and access for those with CP.

I feel like it has to be said as an individual that lives with and “deals with “ Cerebral Palsy on a regular basis, IT PLAIN SUCKS!

  • I deal with pain daily basis.
  • Accessibility issues.
  • Employment/job application struggles and accommodations within that job.
  • People asking me dumb questions.
  • I deal with prejudice

….and so on!

However, for every struggle many things that make me grateful for all the struggles that I have been through.

  • I have developed a critical thinking/solution-based mind that allows me to navigate life and its problems with a completely different lens.
  • Growing up in a wheelchair forced me.to develop my verbal communication skills at a young age. I had to be able to ask for what I needed and be able to express myself in a way that gave me the support I needed throughout my day.
  • It forced me to develop multiple skills in order to compete in the job market.
  • Having CP taught to deal with regret at an early age which allowed me to get used to it.
  • Not to mention all that rejection, Wowza did it make me stronger.

Here a link to learn more Steve.

Here’s the final truth even though I can find the positives with Cerebral Palsy all the struggles are continuous. As I get older they seem to be more and more.

This doesn’t mean that I give up, it means I keep pushing forward ( pun intended).  One thing that I  can guarantee you one thing I am not as happy in my life I appear to be to the outside world both in person and on social media. 

I have to ask myself does that really have anything to do with Cerebral Palsy at all or is that the plight of being a human being?

What are you avoiding?

Do only do things when they absolutely have to be done?

Do you clean up your apartment only when you know you have guests coming over? 

What about renewing your insurance on your car the day it’s due?

These are all examples of things that I have done and I’m at risk of still doing.  I just don’t like doing them. My formula isn’t perfect but here are the things that help me overcome avoidance behavior.

  • Most of us who avoid things already know what’s going to happen if we procrastinate. The key is to remember that that is what’s going to happen and that will motivate you to actually do the thing.
  • Reward yourself. I know it sounds silly but even the small things tell yourself once I’m done this I can work in my garden, watch Netflix, or whatever suits you.
  • My mother always told me “You bugger around first and then you rush later, just get the task over with and then bugger around!” if you don’t know what the term bugger around means chances are you’re under 35 years of old 🤣.
  • Recognize that you like to avoid things and make a conscious effort to not do it. This will be hard at first but if you work at a daily you’ll notice you procrastinate less and less.

I can guarantee that you’ll never be perfect. Nobody ever has been or EVER will be “Perfect”. Take this blog for example; Someone is reading this post right now and thinking about all the grammatical errors, misuse of words, and typos.

I think about that every time I write and I do the best I can but if I worry about it too much I will never blog. Which is why there’s a two-year Gap between written blog posts on this site.

I had too many people tell me about all my errors and instead of just fixing them I’m moving on I avoided writing blog posts for fear of judgment. Guess what? It’s not that scary to screw up. When people tell you what you did wrong just fix it and you get the heck on with your day!

 

5 things I would have done differently in the last 5 years

  1.  I wouldn’t have worried about my “Purpose.”  Seriously, everyone seems to be talking about “finding your purpose” and “If you do what you love you will never work a day in your life”. This is great if you find that but for me, it drove me BAT S*** CRAZY!  In Tools of Titans  Tim Ferriss talks to James Altucher and James dropped these two gems “Haven’t Found Your Overarching, Single Purpose? Maybe You Don’t Have To.”
    “Forget purpose. It’s okay to be happy without one. The quest for a single purpose has ruined many lives.”
  2. I would have blogged more without worrying about the length, SEO, or Google Algorithm. I mean Seth Godin writes daily posts of 50-80 words total with the longest I found was 290 for Sunday Circular. He was inducted into the Marketing Hall of Fame in 2017. ( I didn’t even know there was one, until today!)
  3. I would have spent more time Accepting my Cerebral Palsy instead of fighting against and then beating myself up for not being about “power through”.
  4. I wouldn’t have hounded my dad about drinking and smoking and just enjoyed his company and wisdom. My Dad is 65 and works 7 days a week doing drywall. He has smoked cigarettes since he was 15. He also enjoys a few rum and cokes after work, every day.  I used to pester him to stop drinking and smoking and give up his bad habits. Now the story is different. I now realize WE ALL have bad habits, and these are his. Recently, I have been having deeper conversations with him about life, work, and cars (Our shared passion, is cars). I feel closer to him than ever before.
  5. I would have enjoyed more moments. In the past, I was far more concerned with the end result then I was the journey.  Both personally and professionally.

Disabilities Lead to Business Success

We Hate Stairs is a very focused website it was created and is focused on helping our society become more accessible for those with disabilities and mobility issues.

I will admit right off the bat, that I speak from my own experience of being born with Cerebral Palsy and using and manual wheelchair to get around. I have full sensation and I am blessed to be able to walk with an assertive device for short periods of time. I also drive a car and live independently.

I created this website and my business of Accessibility Consultation out of necessity. I have been involved in the business world through many previous jobs as well as many previous attempts at being an entrepreneur. I am constantly meeting new people and discovering new businesses. A surprising amount of these businesses are not accessible, meaning I cannot even enter the building!

This both frustrated and intrigued me. It was at this point I looked at some of the reasons a business may not be accessible.

Awareness, meaning a lot of have no clue what it is like to be disabled in society and more importantly accessibility for all means more than what “building codes” address!
I don’t know what needs to be done to be more accessible, meaning what changes will I need to make as a business?
The last and I believe the BIGGEST reason for a lack of accessibility, is MONEY! There I said it! I know there will be people out there that will disagree and they will go as far as to argue with me on this point. ( I have been in many debates about the subject of accessibility ). However, when I explain to business owners that people with disabilities have money to spend AND WANT TO SPEND IT IN YOUR BUSINESS, it changes the conversations greatly. I actually use math and tangible numbers to illustrate my point How we help.
It is not just money from business owners that will cure this issue the governments and municipalities need to make accessibility a priority, not only in terms of the customers of businesses but for potential employees as well.

About 25 per cent of British Columbians have a university degree.
In comparison, 17 percent of people with a disability have a university
degree while 33 percent have a non-university post-secondary certificate.

Source: Survey of Labour and Income Dynamics, 2011, Statistics Canada

The employment rate for people with disabilities is 18 percentage points
lower than for people without a disability.

Source: Participation and Activity Limitation Survey, 2006, Statistics Canada

What these above stats don’t mention, is that most people with a disability enjoy routine in their working environment so businesses that hire someone with a disability will have less turnover.

Do whatever you want!

RollingMotivationMonday this video explains a little more about why do videos. And it’s not my intention to tell you what to do it’s my intention to document the things that I go through and some tips that I have. If these tips are relevant to you use them if not great. But do whatever you want to do with your life and be whoever you want to be.

Thinking more long-term when planning

Everything that we’ve done in the past has set us up for where we are now. I want to remember that what I’m planning and setting goals to think more long-term and to recognize no matter where I am in the current moment it’s all setting me up for awesome things in the future. Even if I can’t see those things yes.

 

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