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OK, I admit it, 42 posts the first year of my blog with only 8 last year; that was laziness. I believe all life-events  are positive IF you learn the lesson within them. “There is no such thing as a problem without a gift in its hands, you seek problems because you need their gifts.” ~ Richard Bach
So what did I learn from only posting on my blog 8 times last year?

1. People who enjoy my blog were disappointed.
2. I was unable to build any type of following because they never know when the next post will be coming.
3. My inconstancy on my blog is a direct reflection of me.

Hello all! I am answering the above question from my viewpoint. So…Can we truly be friends with the opposite sex? Now when I talk about “friends” I am not just talking in terms of Facebook, Work or Members of social groups; of course in these cases the answer is YES! I am speaking in terms of true, deep and valuable friendship, the kind where you can confide in that person and they can do the same in you. They are a support, a motivator and most important they are someone you can count on. I have many friends, some have come and gone and some are acquaintances, but I have been blessed to have truly meaningful, genuine relationships with both men and women. Can we truly be friends with the opposite sex? YES! What needs to be done to make this work? 1. Come from a place of genuine care and concern for the other person. When you can truly be happy for them, regardless of your OWN circumstances! (Swallow your pride and be there for him/her) 2. Sexual tension will always cloud judgement, so get it under control,; have an open and honest conversation and establish boundaries. (if this cannot be done, walk away from that person). 3. Understand that regardless of who it is, men and women process things in entirely different ways. Remember that! DON’T BE A JERK! This subject is the same as everything else in life, it takes commitment, effort and communication.

Can one person make a difference? Abso-friggin-lutely! Now I am not talking about, 1 on 10 in a fight or a war or anything of that nature. I refer to it on a much deeper level, the level of our connection to every single thing on this earth. Every time you judge yourself or another person, when you litter or destroy, when you do anything negative; you cause separation. Now here is the good news! When you show compassion, love, open-mindedness, you create things that aid others or pick up a single piece of trash; all of this brings us closer to each and closer to peace for everyone. Here is the simple breakdown: When you radiate positive energy, others not only notice; they change become someone who also radiates and perpetuates positive energy.

I try not to talk a whole lot about money on this blog, but rather about the fundamental of core changes to your habits, mentality and belief system.
However, with state of the economy not exactly “coming up roses” you need to explore different opportunities and “self education”. Simply put Audio books and mp3’s are a great way to multitask.
While you are doing the dishes or folding laundry you could be learning how to be a better communicator. While driving to and from work you could be learning tips on how to be a better parent or partner. So as Jim Rohn the great business philosopher recommends: Take 30 minutes a day and learn something that will better your life.

THE LIBRARY IS FULL OF BOOKS AND OTHER RESOURCES AND THEY ARE FREE!

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I think it’s time to let everyone know, I don’t always work as hard as I can! I am however doing the only thing I know how and that’s WORK ON IT! I have always made it clear that I’m no different then anyone else in terms of the struggles I face, I just handle them better then most.( If you think you are dealing worse things then others, open your eyes to the rest of the world)
My 3 steps to make yourself a hard worker:
1. A good diet helps you focus, lots of greens and fresh fruit will keep up your energy
2. Make a big goal other than money, aim for a car or a trip and visualize the end result, put pictures everywhere etc.
3. Tell everyone to shut up! Your accomplishments are something to be proud of so celebrate them!)

I truly believe the answer is “YES!” Now let me clarify that this doesn’t mean “I do feel good all the time”

The fact is I feel crappy sometimes because of what I do, what I eat, who I am around and how I perceive things.
I know we all know people who are happy everyday, some we think are faking it, others we know are faking it and then there is the mental elite that are happy all the time.

How can this be?
Here is what I believe makes someone happy all the time:
1) Get enough sleep
2) Eat right (this doesn’t mean, go crazy. just be sensible and moderate)
3) Workout everyday, even 10-15 minutes of stretching will make a remarkable difference. (George Burns lived to 100, and according to an interview he had late in life said stretching was a daily activity)
4) Get outside, rain or shine… we need fresh air.. wheeling, walking, jogging etc are great forms of low impact daily exercise that energizes you.
5) Surround yourself with great people. Those who have a great outlook will automatically influence you.
6) Limit your exposure to negative people and events. Just because someone has been your friend since you were kids, doesn’t obligate you to spend tons of time with them. The news is packed with tragedy from beginning to end; my advice is to watch only enough to know what is going on.
7) Plan your day the night before. Set goals, block off certain times to accomplish your tasks etc.

8) Visualize. This goes with the above tip. Take a few minutes as your head is hitting your pillow to picture those tasks and your day, going exactly how you want them to.

9) Make a choice, Positive or Negative. Who do you want to be?
10) Turn this into something good… Find the lesson in everything and learn from it.

Follow these steps and you will be on your way to happiness 24/7

Thanks
Steve

I just got extremely inspired to write about this topic! I literally, just finished reading a book by Rick Hoogendoorn “What is Stopping you?” First off it’s is a great book! Secondly it sparked a thought that we all at one point or another get upset when we start something and do not finish it! As we should, I mean let’s face it if I don’t do the things that I want to in my life I am the only one to blame and I am also the only one who truly suffers. For example if I don’t reach my income goals or take a trip I have planned, my family won’t love me any less or be disappointed in me. I will feel disappointed for not having that income and not taking that trip! Then I got to thinking even if we start something and don’t stick with it, it is better than not doing it at all. I mean if you eat healthier and get up every morning and exercise then stop after a month that is not the best thing you can do for your life, but it is better than not eating healthy and not exercising at all!

My point is this: Do everything in your power to achieve a goals you set, but just keep in mind that there is benefits in the journey as well. Also, if you keep attempting the same goal and not completing it, take a look at the goal itself and the reason why you want it in the first place.

Thanks
Steve

“Make an Impact

I recently read a book called Action Selling by Duane Sparks. It is an entirely new way to look at the sales process. Don’t worry I am not going to short form the step and teach you the process here, what I am going to touch on is “asking questions.” This applies to our everyday life; questions allow us to get answers that we are looking for. We ask them in school, we ask them at work, we ask them in religion but we don’t ask enough questions when we are getting to know people.

Let’s say you want to sell someone something; well you don’t know what to sell them until you find out what they need, and the only way you can truly find out what they need is to ask questions.
Now we’ll look at an example for those not in sales. You want to by someone a gift for a birthday or special occasion, but you have no freakin’ idea what to get them!?! If make an effort to spend more time listening and less time talking, you’ll pick up on this person’s goals, desires and needs quite easily.

Everyone has experienced this. We all have had a friend that we have known for years and we always seem to give and receive the perfect gift, without so much as a word. This was no fluke, if you spend enough time with someone, listen, ask the right questions and genuinely care; you’ll form a bond that can not be broken 

If you want to build great relationships ask great questions; take a genuine interest in people and they will take a genuine interest in you.